When Your Needs Go Unmet: The Quiet Cost of Caring Too Much
- laceyblass
- May 20
- 2 min read
Updated: Jun 11
I’ve noticed a painful pattern — in my clients and in myself — and maybe you’ve felt these things, too:
Low energy, no direction. Everything blurs. What matters? Do I even want to keep doing this?
Resentment. It’s hard to believe the best in others. Some days, we don’t even like the people we love.
Harsh words. We speak sharply — not because we mean to, but because we’re spent.
What do these have in common? They’re signs of unmet needs — ours.
We’re pouring out more than we’re taking in. And when we think about pausing to check in with ourselves, it can feel selfish, indulgent, or just unrealistic. The to-do list is long. People need us.
But our needs do matter — not just for us, but for everyone who depends on us.
That’s where CliftonStrengths coaching comes in. It helps us name what we need, fast — and make even a tiny shift that fills our tank.
Many clients walk away from just one hour of coaching with two powerful things:
A Pause That Brings Perspective. Time to rise above the noise and reset.
Clarity on One Small, Powerful Action. Just one change can renew your energy and direction. When we tend to our needs, we lead and live with more energy, excellence, and ease.
If you want to explore this with me, you can book a 30 minute coaching chat here.
To conclude
Burnout shows up in subtle ways — low energy, irritability, and disconnection often signal unmet personal needs.
Meeting your own needs isn’t selfish — it’s essential for your wellbeing and your ability to support others.
CliftonStrengths coaching offers a reset — helping you quickly identify what you need and take small, effective steps to restore clarity and energy.
About the author Hi I'm Lacey, a CliftonStrengths coach based in New Zealand who's passionate about helping managers and teams thrive, not just survive. I'm also a creative introvert, wife, mum and an avid fan of both exercise and doughnuts! If you're keen to begin or continue your CliftonStrengths journey, drop me a line or book a free chat
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